I can only write from the heart. I hope my contribution will hit the solar plexus of every woman or man out there wanting to draw from your fountain of wisdom gained by your experience in life. You are certainly making lemonade from the lemon that has been dealt for you in life. I can say it is jolly good lemonade and I have been privileged to sample some of it. It has provided me with a rejuvenating elixir to savour and enjoy in the twilight years of my life.
Yes, I am one of those matured woman who in retirement has lost her mojo! Granted, when I did ask my dad once if I had any sex appeal he gave me the honest answer, “Yes my girl, you do have sex appeal, but not for all men!!!” But alas, I felt that I had been skimmed over with a piece of rough sandpaper and my personal confidence and charisma had taken a blow and the sex appeal would not even stretch at all.
Here comes Trish, a highly intelligent woman infused with an EQ that smooths the rough patches with unquestionable professionalism, diplomacy and sensitivity. Her experience and enthusiasm made her perfectly suited for my mojo revamp. I have put all the knowledge I have gained to practice and yes the compliments are rolling in. Needless to say the sex appeal has been brushed with Trish’s magic wand and I have a talisman of knowledge gained to keep and treasure to boost my confidence.
Esma van Schalkwyk, Valdora
Kate writes: Suddenly Single
My husband of 27 years came home from a weekend away and announced he wanted a divorce. I knew our relationship wasn’t perfect and needed some work, but I had no idea it was at this stage for him.
This was a week before Christmas 2017.
I suggested we work through it and try to save the relationship, but he was having none of that. It was cut and dried as far as he was concerned. He then told me he hadn’t been happy for two years and had been talking to a (mutual) friend about it for that length of time. This was a real slap in the face for me.
I was shocked, saddened, hurt and, probably most of all, humiliated. I was worried about my immediate future and whether I would be able to find employment, being just about to turn fifty. I felt I was a failure and that I must be at fault. My self-esteem was very low.
I was introduced to Trish by a friend who had just gone through a similar experience, as Trish had herself. One of the most important things (I felt) she told me was that plenty of people who meant well would give me advice on what to do, but that it may not be helpful if they hadn’t walked in my shoes. Trish opened her home to me and I stayed at her place for four or five days whilst organising employment, somewhere to live and everything else that goes along with moving. I felt very comfortable telling a “stranger” about the whole experience, and it was very beneficial to get away from the toxic environment at home. We had lots of informal chats, and Trish offered advice, but also options and insights, which have been invaluable.
I definitely felt stronger and better prepared to return ‘home’, where my husband is still living, and pack up my life and move on. Trish has continued to be one of my staunchest supporters, and I am proud to call her my friend. All my big and little steps along the way to my new life have been shared with her, and she checks in on me regularly. I know I can cry, vent, share triumphs and disasters in a non-judgemental and safe environment. I have learnt to be stronger, to stand up for myself (still have a way to go there!) and to hold my head high. Trish has had a great impact on my life as it is now and the outcomes I’ve achieved. Her guidance, mentoring, friendship and support have been invaluable.
Kate R. Maroochydore