Hot older women own their own style – or do they?
Hot older women own their own style – or do they?
In a society where ageism and patriarchy still exist only 10% of midlife women own their own style and can be classified as hot older women.
What do I mean by that?
She’s a woman who, regardless of her size, shape, age, ethnicity or beliefs expresses herself in an authentic and unique way which empowers her lifestyle, feeds her soul, boosts her confidence, transforms her life and puts her in the frame of hot older women where being 50 plus is an asset, not a liability.
We CAN have it all. You may not agree with that, nor want to be a hot older woman, but hear me out.
Who comes to mind as hot women, but also hot older women? Judi Dench, Ita Buttrose, Helen Mirren, Cher and other living treasures come to mind, and not just now, but they were always hot women. Despite their differences, they have one thing in common. They look years younger than their actual numbers. They all have their own style which has become their trademark over time. They each have found their ‘secret sauce’.
Age is a number. Old is an attitude.
Let’s go on a discovery tour and find out why we never really knew ourselves, or some of us lose our way, and how we can find our ‘secret sauce’ (again).
No matter how much you want to deny it and hide from it, our hair changes colour, our body changes shape, our skin loses elasticity and clarity and our makeup doesn’t go on the same way for the same result.
We have updated our TVs, kitchens, cars and sometimes relationships. As life has evolved, our habits and ways of doing things have not. We are still using those old techniques we used to do in almost every aspect of our life up to that point, but now it’s not working so well.
Then, if that’s not enough, an unexpected event occurs. Stuff happened! Something buggered life up as we know it, and most don’t know how to un-bugger it.
If there is infidelity, an illness, a redundancy, a death or some other trauma. It’s at this point that a time of transition is enforced. Something or someone has created mayhem. In a heartbeat, life will never be the same again and everything you know and have done is questioned, initiating a total rethink and search for a strategy for doing something different. But how, and what?
Hot older women approaching midlife is all about personal transition.
From what once ‘was’, navigating the ‘now’ to a desired ‘future’ suddenly and urgently becomes the main reason women react and are motivated to consider a makeover, not just of their look, but of their whole lives.
On the other hand, many midlife women are recognizing the need for transformation and are being proactive and planning their future by purposefully changing careers, going into business or even considering flying solo. Therefore, they recognise the need to re-evaluate their image and sense of ‘self’.
It’s fast becoming the more frequent and desired emerging trend for midlife women now to be starting their transitions around the age of 40 into the next chapter of their life, for any number of reasons, some planned changes, some not.
Some may call it a midlife crisis. It’s about knowing what works for you, taking into account the life you want to be living, and the quality of the relationships you want in the environment that nurtures and supports you.
It’s also what Life and Love Coaches talk about: Change is normal. Nothing is forever, the tide comes in, and the tide goes out. When we are faced with adversity, we are presented with the perfect opportunity to explore how to navigate and expand our options for a higher benefit, but difficult to navigate when you are walking on virgin ground where you have never been before.
What do hot older women know that others don’t?
We have so much yet to give in our lives and often we fail to recognise we have a wealth of knowledge, resilience, experience and so much wisdom. We have overcome so much and are still overcoming so much, tapping into our resources and learning new skills, leaning into a new phase of our lives, yet at times, we still live in our past. Midlife women can really have it all and own their own style. But, just like renovating a house. . .
Before there can be a transformation, there first needs to be a demolition.
For many, a makeover includes redefining your identity and realigning your head and your heart, especially for those who feel disempowered by illness, bereavement, divorce, bankruptcy and any other attack or impact on their fulfilment. With guidance and know-how can, a makeover can be the most impactful transformation when authenticity is maintained.
Once a woman goes through the process of experiencing a makeover in any area of her existence, feeling the power of reevaluating her life, and her personal image, discovering her archetype and getting out of her head into her heart, she will have that understanding of what works for her. It also presents an opportunity to learn how to navigate different trends and not be controlled by them.
Trends come and go, but your own individual style remains authentically yours. This, I believe, is the secret sauce of hot older women.
It’s a learning process, even though over the years it will evolve and change as you evolve and change, and it’s sometimes challenging not to get caught up in the seasonal fashion changes that come and go so quickly, often within 6 months, depending on where on the fashion cycle you made your purchase.
Now more than any other time previously, we need to release those darlings we love so much that only sabotage us. We need to remain current and empowered so it’s important our external story tells that and shows that we are strong, resilient, yet soft and confident and not stuck in a rut or from a time 30 years previously. You are not that woman anymore. You are now more.
You will be able to identify how you can you take these trends and set them into what you already know about yourself, your style archetype at an innate level and not being pigeon-holed into a type; your body signature and what works for you and what doesn’t, understanding your style foundation and then being able to apply that.
No matter the age, women still want to stay relevant, visible and beautiful in their own personal style without too much effort. However, effortless style is a myth and is a bit like watching a swan glide gracefully and smoothly over the water, and there’s a great flurry of activity beneath the surface.
It takes some practice for the holistic approach to make it all come together from the inside out and getting the outside to authentically reflect the game on the inside. And over time, sometimes quickly, sometimes with baby steps and with guidance, it comes together.
How do I know this?
I am a midlife woman too, and I’ve walked in many pairs of shoes. In fact, I once was 6.5 years of age, but someone moved my decimal point when I wasn’t looking.
But I still want to finish strong, vital and fiercely independent, just like I was when I was 6!
I’m not done yet. And neither are you. There is an opportunity for you also to go on your style discovery tour: a fun and fascinating time learning new strategies on so many levels to bring joie de vivre into your Feisty 40s, Fabulous 50s, Sexy 60s, Sensuous 70s and Audacious 80s, no matter what life throws at you!
Do you dare to be stylish among the other hot older women?
Give yourself permission to find your ‘secret sauce’. I’ve got you. I see you. Contact or Call me if you want to have a chat to see if there is a benefit for you.
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Plus Size and Curvy or a great sense of style?
Plus size and curvy? Let’s do away with this vocabulary and bring in a great sense of style.
It seems that designers have only been brought up on being “big” versus being a size 6 and have envisaged all women beyond the standard sizes up to size 16 and body shape of rectangle wore skivvies, kaftans and frumpy clothes and were willing to wear these. Are you kidding?
It’s so frustrating for so many women with non-standard shaped bodies to shop for affordable clothing that fits well, has some shape in the right places – and not where you don’t need it, and not all the same shapelessness and style-challenged that many just give up and settle for a cup of coffee instead. Take-me-home-and-love-me clothing is as scarce as hen’s teeth.
Let’s change our language. Let’s remove Plus size and curvy from our vocabulary. Change ideas we’ve learned around this terminology. You don’t have to be a frumpy woman because you are a non-standard shape or “Plus” size. Which is the hardest area to fit for you – tops or bottoms?
It’s not your body. It’s your clothes!
We are all different and have different shapes, regardless of our age, height and ethnicity. Majority of designers do NOT know how to cater for you and the way nature evolves you, nor do they know how to dress our non-standard shape bodies, because they don’t know how it “feels” to have so limited choice and settle for something that they have to “make do” with. Granted, there are some who do however, if designers don’t have our bodies, they don’t really know how it feels to try to love how we wear them. We are all different shapes and sizes, and one shape does not fit all. Even most of the models for these Plus size labels feel frumpy modelling these garments and have way more sexy clothes in their own wardrobes. What are they thinking? Obviously, only about what they know and understand and is easiest to create for the mass productivity system.
Plus size and curvy? You are perfect the way you are.
What if instead you become educated on how to style your body just the way you are, how to shape it here and not there, to make alterations where it’s necessary and easy. Sometimes it’s as easy as knowing how to alter the hem-length to the best one for you, or learning how to use your silhouette to your best advantage, understand how line and interior design can take kilos off, and how the use of colour contrast, levels and combinations and fabric type will flatter you not fail you, and above all, getting correct fit to be a super, beautiful, normal “you”.
You can have a fabulous wardrobe no matter what size, shape or age you are. You just need to know what you may not already know and work with what we’ve got!
How would that feel?
No More Frumpy Frocks, but let’s bring in great style.
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